Good manners are part of the norms of coexistence within society. So, it is important that rules of courtesy are taught to children from an early age so that they know what the appropriate behaviors are according to the different environments and situations in which they find themselves.
Within public transport, neighborhood communities, walking down the street, at the table, etc. All the places that we must share with other people need rules and regulations to regulate and make coexistence work.
A child who learns rules of courtesy will make his development more viable and help him find his place in society more easily, since these rules will be a key element for his social success.
Children are not born knowing the rules of courtesy or good manners. We cannot ask a baby not to burp, not touch food with his hands, not to cry in public places in case someone gets upset, etc. In fact they need to do it since it is the only way they have to interact with the environment around them.
As they grow, the little ones must be taught. This time depends on the maturity of the child. Children's way of learning is through observationThat is why it is important that parents, other family members such as uncles and grandparents, and later, from school, teachers, are the people who are in charge of explaining and teaching these rules of courtesy. Should consider:
- Say hello, apologize, say thank you, etc. They will be customs that they can learn from the age of 2, but without forcing them to do so and being understanding as it will be counterproductive.
- As it grows these rules can be extended behavior such as greeting neighbors, not yelling, not interrupting conversations, etc.
- Children should not be overwhelmed with endless rules since according to the stage of development in which they are, they will or will not be able to follow them all.
Getting a child to use good manners is not a matter of chance. Behind this achievement there is an important work on the part of the family and the teachers.
- Be an example. The rules of courtesy are not only rules of conduct, they are fundamentally based on the education of values such as respect, kindness, recognition, gratitude or consideration and to teach it, the parents' tool will be the example.
- Give love. Express affection and love towards children in all possible ways.
- To praise. Praise is positive stimulus that facilitates development and provides the child with the necessary self-esteem to acquire good manners.
- Be patient and constant for children to learn that rules of courtesy are very important.
- Explain the importance of courtesy rules for coexistence and the consequences of not using them.
In addition to teaching good manners, it is important that children put them into practice on a day-to-day basis. One way to make the child participate and make him see the results of his behavior "explicitly" is by creating a reward system where for each situation where he behaves "appropriately" such as: say thanks when appropriate, say hello, no interrupt a conversation etc.
In addition, these real situations such as shopping or going out to a restaurant will be the perfect scenarios for the child to remember and put into practice the rules that he is learning.
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